How to Network Without Being Awkward About It

Let’s be honest—most of us cringe a little when we hear the word “networking.”

It can feel forced, transactional, or like you’re expected to morph into a human business card. But believe it or not, networking doesn’t have to be awkward. In fact, the best networking doesn’t feel like networking at all. It feels like having a real conversation, with real people, about things you actually care about.

Whether you're freelancing, working remotely, growing a side hustle, or just trying to meet more people, here’s how to network like a normal person—and actually enjoy it.

1. Think Relationships, Not Transactions

People can tell when you're just trying to get something from them. Instead of thinking, What can I get from this person? ask, how can I be a real, helpful human being?

Start with curiosity. Ask about what they’re working on, what challenges they’ve faced, or what lights them up in their field. Listen more than you talk. Offer something of value, whether it's a book recommendation, a relevant tool, or even just a thoughtful follow-up email.

Tip: Keep a mental note of what people care about. Refer back to it later. That’s what makes people feel seen, not sold to.

2. Ditch the Elevator Pitch

You don’t need a perfectly rehearsed pitch to make an impression. You just need to be clear and conversational. If someone asks what you do, answer honestly in a sentence or two. Then, flip the script and ask about them.

Here’s a simple format that works:

“I help [type of people] do [what you help them do]. Right now, I’m working on [project or goal].”

Then pause. Let them respond. Keep it a back-and-forth, not a performance.

3. Find the Right Rooms

You don’t have to walk into a stiff business mixer with printed resumes to make meaningful connections. Look for events, communities, or workspaces where people gather with intention.

• Join casual meetups, workshops, or coffee hours with a specific theme or interest.

• Attend creative or industry-specific events where shared experiences make it easy to talk.

• Try coworking spaces where regulars are already in “get stuff done” mode.

  
  

At places like 514 Market Loop, people are already in the headspace to collaborate, brainstorm, and support each other. The environment lowers the pressure and makes conversation flow naturally.

4. Lead With Something Specific

Avoid the “So, what do you do?” black hole.

Instead, try something more specific:

• “What kind of work do you enjoy most right now?”

• “How did you get into that field?”

• “What are you building toward this year?”

  
  

These kinds of questions feel more thoughtful and less rehearsed. They also open the door to more meaningful conversations.

5. Follow Up Like a Human

One of the biggest mistakes in networking? Not following up. Or following up with something robotic.

Instead, after the conversation, send a quick message:

“Hey, it was great chatting at [event]. I really appreciated your thoughts on [topic]. Let me know if you ever want to grab a coffee!”

Networking has never been about selling a product or idea. It’s about creating connections with others and exploring the doors those connections might open.

6. Practice the Art of Hanging Around

Sometimes the best connections happen after the event ends. Or during a casual chat while you refill your coffee. Don't rush out, try sticking around. Offer to help clean up. Be approachable. Smile a bit and engage.

Networking isn’t a quick process. It’s about building trust over time.

7. Be Yourself (No Really)

This sounds obvious, but many people show up to networking events wearing a mask they think they’re “supposed” to wear. That would be a terrible mistake. Be the version of you who’s genuinely curious, kind, and interested in others. That always goes over best.

It's Really Not That Bad

People make networking out to be much harder than it is. Simply remember these seven tips for coworking, and you will be golden! And maybe… just maybe…networking can become something you enjoy, or at least don’t dread.